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“Are you taking the kids football to seriously?”                  All hell breaks out at kids party

Wow, where do I start with this one. I’ve had a bunch of kids together since they were 4 years old. I’m just a dad of one of the kids who stepped forward when no one else would.

I said from the start that all kids would get the same game time and all kids would play in all positions regardless.

They are now u7s and interact socially away from football and the team are all best friends.

Results wise we win some we lose some, to me I’m trying to build children’s social skills with team play and sport.

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This past weekend it was one of the lads birthdays and we were all invited, I thought everything was fine and the parents were happy as no one had said anything to the contrary. I was very wrong.

Half way through the party 2 of the mams and 1 of the dads began what I can only describe as “interrogated” me.

They compared my team to every other team in the league, criticised my coaching methods and the red rag to a bull. My decision to give equal time and rotate positions.

This was all in front of my wife ad elder daughter, I reminded them that it was a team decision to do this and nobody had mentioned it before, I was told I was playing these kids “out of position” and “losing crucial games”


My response was to laugh, and say “I think your taking kids football at little to seriously”

This turned into a tirade of abuse, some quite personal. I will be honest it cut straight through my heart as I give so much time and effort it felt cruel to have it thrown back at me.

I left immediately with my wife and children who were distraught how I was treated in such a public way, in fairness 2 of the parents rang me later and apologised, but 1 refused and took her son to another team.

That night I was so hurt and questioned why I was putting myself out, I then looked back at the positive impact I have had on these kids and the role model I have been and thought, damn right I will continue. Come on the weekend!!!!

 

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Quote from a parent “Where’s all the money gone”

I sent a text out midweek about planning a  Christmas party for the team and their  brothers/sisters, nothing fancy just a small function, maybe a Dj, small buffet,  maybe medals and a trophy each to celebrate Christmas etc

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This was for my u7s team, I have 6 players with subs of £2 per week total of £48-£60 per month income from subs.

Anyway, I sent a text saying the party would cost approximately £250 which equates to about £40 per child.

 

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I suggested a range of quick ways to raise funds on the text, bonus ball, raffle, or sell tickets for the party to the friends and families.

 

I received NO response at all, Sunday’s game came and after the game I spoke to everyone to see what there thoughts were. Clearly 2 of the parents had discussed this all week and said the most insulting words possible to me with an air of suspicion

 

“Where’s all the money gone?”

 

Had I been in a different setting my reaction may have been different, I informed these parents that there £2 per week believe it or not wasn’t enough to cover strips/league fees/training fees/medals/trophies/ref fees etc.

 

I am SOOOO angry that I was made to feel that I had done something with the money, the truth is it actually costs me money!!!!

 

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Diary entry 21/11/15″Very proud coach”

Coaches diary – Today i enjoyed the greatest experience of my coaching journey to date!!Having chosen the team to start todays game while enjoying my morning coffee i knew the lad I’d chosen to play up front would not be happy about starting in that position (he has confidence issues and is not a big fan of running with the ball), and i was right he was not impressed!! 

I pulled him to one side before the game and had a one to one chat with him, basically telling him i knew he was capable of going out there getting the ball under control and scoring, and that he needed to believe in himself!! 
End result – two goals, MoM and one very happy young lad (and coach).