Tag: youth football

‘Why do I only come on if we’re winning by loads or losing by loads?’

So why did I want to be a football coach and what did I think I would get out of it? The answer is not as simple as you might think. Actually it’s a bloody tough one to consider but I’ll try and be as honest as I can. When a parent looks over and notices that their child is a substitute it’s not a nice feeling. No parent ever hopes that their child will not be in the starting line-up. Internally you rationalise that it will be one of life’s lessons, or you might tell yourself that it is in the interest of fairness, and everyone must accept that they can’t play every game. It’s a fair selection process, nothing more and next week it will be someone else’s turn to sit it out.

But if you see this happen week after week it starts to become an emotional burden and difficult to bear witness to. After all, you live with this budding Lionel Messi; you’re the one who notices where he’s put his favourite teams’ calendar pride of place just where he can see it before he goes to sleep at night in his bedroom. The excited young wide eyed boy that asks you if you think they’ll play today as he busily struggles to get his socks over his shin pads. When my own son was 8 I asked him what he wanted to do when he left school. He told me he’d be a bus driver through the week and play for Manchester City at weekend. Innocence is a beautiful thing in children; everything is so black and white. Life is simple and anything is possible. How utterly disheartening then when you see that it is your child, yet again that is keeping his squad jacket on, that is freezing on the touchline patiently waiting for his coach to tell him to get warmed up.

It’s even worse if your son like mine, is the sort who will just stand there until he’s told to warm up. He would never dream of asking his manager when he’s going on. The car journey on the way home becomes abject misery. At first you can tell them that they’ll get their chance eventually. Then you tell them if they work hard, and keep trying, their chance will come. Then if you’re stupid like me, you’ll tell them it’s because they are not working hard enough. Our journey from hell was after a game for under 11’s in December 2013. It was a miserable wet and cold slate grey Manchester morning. The team were at home entertaining a local rival. I looked over as the lads warmed up with Coach hoping that my son might finally get to start a game.

He wasn’t their best player but he wasn’t their worst either. Not that that should matter. The parents were huddled closer than might be considered comfortable due the biting wind that was driving the Manchester rain into our faces. We were cold but at least we were dressed for it. The lads on the pitch were ringing wet through even in their training coats, and by now as muddy as they would have been if they’d have just played a full game. The referee, who looked about 90, and had the whitest skin I’ve ever seen, seemed not to notice the weather at all and offered a casual ‘morning’ to the Captain and the clad ensemble of parents that were eager for the game to get going. ‘Ref any chance of 5 minutes each way in this?’ one of the parents shouted, but the ref didn’t respond he was busy getting his linesman flags out of his bag. It is at this point as a parent that you have got to have your wits about you.

If you’re caught off guard and not paying full attention, you will eventually look up to see a referees flag practically shoved up your nose, and a ‘appreciate that, thanks’ message from the ref who has spun so quickly on his haunches, you can’t even recall the moment you accepted the flag into your hand. So that’s what Derren Brown does with his Saturday mornings….. Any attempt to pass the flag on yourself is rendered futile because, at that moment as you look at all the other dads, you realise that you are actually alone, and every other man and his dog has retreated to a safe distance of roughly fifteen feet away. ‘You X%$?X’ I turn to my wife and say pathetically, ‘I’ve got to do the flag again’ ‘mmm, you’ve made more appearances with that flag than our son has played all season’. I look at her apologetically, ‘get someone else to do it for a change’ she instructs. The dads looked at me apologetically, but not apologetically enough to actually take the flag. Derren Brown’s whistle signals kick off, I hastily get into position as linesman and look around the pitch for my son. He isn’t there, I look over at Coach and, oh yes there he is, the one shivering behind the other three subs. The game was 1-1 at half time which I knew meant that he wouldn’t be coming on any time soon.

Most of the parents including my wife had retreated to the safety of some trees to shelter from the downpour. I however had official flag business to attend to. I stood miserable and cold on one side of the pitch while my son was no doubt doing the same on the other. The second half saw us score another goal with just 10 minutes left. Great for the team but not so great for the subs. Coach did his best to get the lads on before the final whistle which saw my sons stats as “played 60 seconds, touches 0” As I walked towards the ref to give him his flag I heard him say to my boy ‘well played there young un’. I didn’t speak to coach after the game and we didn’t wait for his team talk.

The three of us just trudged to the car wet through and freezing cold. In the car he started pushing all the right buttons, ‘Why am I sub every week? ‘Why do I only come on if we are winning by loads or losing by loads?’

Why why why….

He was right of course, why indeed?

But I was as fed up about it as he was. I didn’t want see other people’s kids playing football every week. And so I snapped, at my ten year old son, who just wanted to be in a team, play football and drive buses.

Anon

North Of England Football Tournament

Tournament Name:
North Of England Football Tournament


Tournament Organiser:
PinPoint Recruitment Junior Football League


Tournament Web Address:
http://www.pinpointjuniorleague.co.uk/members/events/tournament/


Age:
various


Entry Fee:
various


Tournament Email Address:
admin@pinpointjuniorleague.co.uk


Tournament Address:
Cramlington Sporting Club

Cramlington

Northumberland

NE23 6BN


Tournament Information:

July 22nd

Girls – U 14, U15s

Boys – U8s, U9s

July 23rd

Boys – U7s, U10s

Girls – U16s

See more and apply HERE

Position:


Other:
Assistant League Secretary


Name:
Mr Gary Trewick


Email:
admin@pinpointjuniorleague.co.uk

Chamberlayne Athletic Football Tournament

Tournament Name:
Chamberlayne Athletic Football Tournament


Tournament Organiser:
Darren Lillywhite


Tournament Web Address:
www.chamberlayneafc.com


Age:
u7,u8,u9,u10,u11,u12,u13,u14,u15,u10/11 girls,u12 girls,u13 girls,u14 girls


Entry Fee:
£35 6v6 or £60 9v9 (u11 boys only)


Tournament Email Address:
darren@chamberlayneafc.com


Tournament Address:
Mount Pleasant sports field

hamble lane

hamble

so314nd


Tournament Information:

Position:
Other


Other:
Tournament Organiser


Name:
darren


Email:
darren@chamberlayneafc.com

Hearts of Beath JFC Football Festival & Fun Day

Tournament Name: Hearts of Beath JFC Football Festival & Fun Day
Tournament Date: 16/07/2017
Tournament Organiser: Carrie Ann Paterson
Tournament Web Address: https://www.facebook.com/Hearts-Of-Beath-Jfc-Summer-Football-festival-fun-Day-894687523996749/
Team Age Groups: Under 7’s, Under 8’s, Under 9’s
Entry Fee per team: Fun Fours £20 Super Fives £25 7v7 £30 per team
Tournament Email Address: heartsofbeathjfc@outlook.com
Address 1: No 7 Pitch
Address 2: Rowan Terrace
Town: Cowdenbeath
Post Code: KY4 9JZ
Tournament Image: Badge_yow3tb.jpg
Tournament Information: 2011/12 Fun 4’s 10 min games (no more than 6 players per team)
2010 Fun 4’s 10 min games (no more than 6 players per team)
2009 Super 5’s 15 min games (no more than 8 players per team)
2008 7v7 20 min games (no more than 10 players per team)
2005 7v7 20 min games (no more than 10 players per team)

Various Stalls & Kids Rides

Bolsover Town FC 2017 Tournament

Tournament Name:
Bolsover Town FC 2017 Tournament


Tournament Organiser:
Alan Duffy


Tournament Web Address:
https://bolsovertownfc.teamapp.com/


Age:
U7’s – U14’s


Entry Fee:
£30 or £50 for two teams in same age group


Tournament Email Address:
alan.duffy1@nhs.net


Tournament Address:
Bolsover Town Sports & Social Club

Moor Lane

Bolsover

S44 6EB


Tournament Information:
Bolsover Town FC would like to invite your Club/Team to take part in our Football Tournament, which will be held on the weekend of 8/9th July 2017. Age groups are as of the 2016/2017 season. No representative teams or Academy teams will be accepted into the tournament.

The tournament will scheduled as follows: Saturday morning KO 0930 – U7s & U9’s Saturday afternoon KO 1400 – U11s & U13s Sunday morning KO 0930 – U8s & U10s Sunday afternoon KO 1400 – U12s & U14s All teams will play 6-a-side with 3 roll on/off substitutes per game, with a maximum squad of 11 players. All age groups will play in two league groups of six teams per group (subject to entries), leading to a knock out semi-final and final. Finalists will receive individual medals or trophies. The entry fee is £30 per team or £50 for two teams in the same age group. All entries will be confirmed by email only. The closing date for entries is the 18th June 2017. Parking and programme will be £3.00.

Position:
Coach


Other:


Name:
John Albanese


Email:
jalbanese2000@yahoo.co.uk

Stotfold juniors tournament

Tournament Name:
Stotfold juniors tournament


Tournament Organiser:
Gary hoy


Tournament Web Address:
Stotfold juniors fc


Age:
U7-u13


Entry Fee:
£30


Tournament Email Address:
garyjohnhoy@hotmail.com


Tournament Address:
Stotfold fc

Roker park

Stotfold

Sg5 4an


Tournament Information:
We are pleased to announce the Stotfold Junior Football Club Summer Tournament will be held on the fri 7th, sat 8th and sun 9th July 2017. It’s being hosted on Stotfold Football Club’s pitch at Roker Park, The Green, Stotfold, SG5 4AN.

This is a good opportunity for the players to play within a stadium environment, the pitch and venue is often used for Cup Finals. This is our fifth year running this event and every year it has been a huge success with some fantastic feedback. Last year we had age groups filled within a few days and nearly all had a waiting list so please dont delay with booking your place For the non-competitive age groups each player will receive a medal.

Competitive tournament winners/finalists will recieve a trophy each player ,winners also a cup for the team Start times Fri U12 6-30pm Sat U7 9am,U9 11-30am ,U11 3pm, U13 6-30pm Sun U8 9am , U10 12 noon The U12 and 13 tournaments will be played under floodlit conditions which has been a great success in previous years. As you can imagine it’s very popular and a special experience for the players We are offering a very competitive entrance fee to encourage as many teams to take part as possible, plus a further discount if we receive your team’s entry before 1st May This tournament provides an excellent opportunity for your players to continue playing football during the summer and for you to also look at potential new players. The application form is attached and to be returned to myself with your payment.

Please ensure your Affiliation Number is provided, and if you’re booking more than 1 place, please specify a name/colour for each team.

Any queries or questions please feel free to contact me on 07792 252111. Please don’t delay in booking your place as we don’t want to disappoint anyone. T

o secure your place quickly, it’s best to submit a bank transfer, and specify your team name as a reference. Account Number 03936716 / Sort Code 20-41-12. Once your entry has been received with payment, a confirmation email and text message will be sent to confirm your place. In June we will email you with final details of the day. Thanks, Gary Hoy Event organiser

Position:


Other:
Event organiser


Name:
Gary hoy


Email:
garyjohnhoy@hotmail.com

The Car journey home….

It was a sunny Saturday afternoon in May and the clock struck noon, this meant it was that time again for little 7-year-old Ben. Uniform, shin guards and boots at the ready. Suddenly Ben heard his father demanding him to “Get in the car!!”. Hesitantly Ben, walked towards the car, with a sense of excitement and anticipation. His father stood towering by the car door, waiting impatiently for anxious little Ben.

With a leap of faith, Ben entered. In hope that this journey might be different from the previous. Then came the noise “BANG” the car door closing. It appeared like Ben had entered a whole different world.  The world full of uncertainty and fear. Ben’s fear quickly became a realization.

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Immediately, without reluctance “Son, you listening; You have to play well today and winning is a must!”. The conversation that Ben had feared and anticipated just began. Ben’s father’s high expectations and demands, were the only topic of conversation during the car journey to and from every field. Ben always responded with a vague and unconvincing “Yes, dad.”.

All Ben wanted to feel and hear was support and love; not demands and analytical expectations. Eyes fixed on the car window, was the only source of escape for Ben. His father continued to firmly highlight his demands, “Hurry it up, kick it long, no skills, and winning, and Listen to me, not your coach”. Arriving at the field couldn’t come any sooner of the young 7-year-old.

On previous occasions, Ben had counted how many houses were between his home and the field; 22. As the car drove smoothly passed house after house, Ben silently, counted down each small, medium or large house, as he passed 22…21..20..19. Always one house away from freedom.

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“Tick Tock Tick Tock” the sound of the blinkers (Indicators), quickly caught Ben’s attention. That repetitive sound meant he was one turn away from escaping. Wiggling in his seat, Ben rapidly attempted to locate his friends. “Over there!!” Ben yelled.  He waited for the car to stop, unbuckle and off he went. Ben ran like it was the start of the Olympic 100m sprint. His father wasn’t done yet. Suddenly Ben came to an immediate stop, slowly turned and glanced back at his father to hear “Remember son, You MUST win!”. At this very moment, every element of enjoyment and hope was slowly fading away for Ben.

Surrounded by friends, Ben’s thoughts and emotions quickly changed for the better. Was this the freedom that Ben was searching for? Warm-ups completed and simple instructions were given by the coach “Have fun”. Every young player was full of enthusiasm as they prepare for the whistle. Except for one young boy, Ben. The expectations of his father kept creeping into his mind. The level of nervousness slowly increased, as the seconds past. The referee blows his whistle and begins the game. As the game continued, Ben continuously felt an insupportable glare. It was his father. He was trying to convey his demands by his negative body language towards his youthful son.

Aspiring to be like his friends, playing without fear and a smile. If Ben had paint underneath his cleats, he would have painted the whole field, with how much ground he covered. But there was something missing? A smile. At the half, coaches were reiterating “We’re having fun, learning and playing with our friends. Keep it up”. Within the bubble of fun, many of his friends never spared a second for the sideline. However, Ben, couldn’t forget about the glare, and the high expectations from his demanding father. The feeling of freedom, he was meant to fully experience never surfaced. In it’s final few minutes, it appeared like the game had by-passed little Ben, like a quick gust of wind. As he was overshadowed by his emotions that were set in stone by his father. The dreaded final whistle was fast approaching. Ben immersed himself in a deep thought. Wondering if the car journey home would be the same as the previous? Also, if he ever wanted to return to such unbearable, environment influenced by his father again?

Grassroots Guest writer

Richard Cashman

The Sport Influencer

A Coaches worth is found in the impact that they have on their players lives.

A coaches worth isn’t found in their win/loss record or on the resume of which team they have coached, it is found in the impact that they have on their players lives.

 “A good coach takes his love for the game and instills it in you. They mould you into the player they see inside of you and watch your talent and dedication grow into a skill that you both can be proud of. Coaches payoff is the smile they see when you’ve reached your goal. Their drive is the tears you cry because you want it so bad, knowing that he has the same feeling inside him is what motivates the player”

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A good coach often without realising or even trying when will help a child fall in love with the game they love and hopefully have a lifelong involvement in some capacity be it playing, coaching, refereeing etc.

Instilling the value of teamwork, sportsmanship, integrity, honesty and respect are equally important into a child’s outlook on sport and life.

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Children should look back in adulthood at there grassroots years with fondness and remember there coach, most will hold there coach in high regard.

Speaking from personal experience I can honestly say my years playing grassroots were fantastic, made so by my coach. A man I still look up to, the first person in my thoughts when I need advice and the first person I will ring for a beer.

Because you see a coaches worth isn’t found in their win/loss record or on the resume of which team they have coached, it is found in the impact that they have on their players lives.

North Of England Football Tournament

Tournament Name:
North Of England Football Tournament


Tournament Organiser:
PinPoint Recruitment Junior Football League


Tournament Web Address:
http://www.pinpointjuniorleague.co.uk/members/events/tournament/


Age:
various


Entry Fee:
various


Tournament Email Address:
admin@pinpointjuniorleague.co.uk


Tournament Address:
Cramlington Sporting Club

Cramlington

Northumberland

NE23 6BN


Tournament Information:

July 1st

Girls – U 10, U11s

Boys – U11s, U13s

July 2nd

Boys – U12s, U14s

Girls – U12s

See more and apply HERE

Position:


Other:
Assistant League Secretary


Name:
Mr Gary Trewick


Email:
admin@pinpointjuniorleague.co.uk

Charlestown youth summer tournament U7-U16

Tournament Name:
Charlestown youth summer tournament


Tournament Organiser:
Dave Hitchens


Tournament Web Address:
Charlestownfootballclub.co.uk


Age:
Under 7-16 boys & girls


Entry Fee:
£20


Tournament Email Address:
charlestownfc@btinternet.com


Tournament Address:
St Mewan Park

Nanphisck

St Austell

PL26 7DT


Tournament Information:
Our annual summer tournament is open for both boys,girls and mixed teams. We are usually very well supported with around 115 teams entering over the weekend of 1st and 2nd July. For further info please email me

Position:
Club Secretary


Other:


Name:
Dave Hitchens


Email:
charlestownfc@btinternet.com

HHTYFC Chiswick Brooks Tournament 2017

Tournament Name:
HHTYFC Chiswick Brooks Tournament 2017


Tournament Organiser:
Eleri Russell


Tournament Web Address:
Www.hemelfc.com


Age:
U7 – u15


Entry Fee:
£35


Tournament Email Address:
hemel7s2013@gmail.com


Tournament Address:
JFK School

Hollybush Lane

Hemel Hempstead

HP1 2PH


Tournament Information:

Position:
Club Secretary


Other:


Name:
Mark Russell


Email:
secretaryboys.hhtyfc@gmail.com

We are not professionals, but we stepped up when the kids needed someone. 

For the majority of us, we coach or manage our football team because it gives us a sense of joy. We enjoy the feeling we get when we help a child achieve something within the game that makes their face light up.

We’re not professionals, but we were the ones that stepped forward to run the team when others didn’t.

And that is the point. We are not professionals, nor do we claim to be. We’ve all sat on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon in our armchair and shouted at the television as if we know better but we know, deep down, that we are no Pep Guardiola. Some of us, fortunately not myself, have come across parents who believe that they could be but ultimately they, like ourselves, had the chance to run the team but shirked away at the opportunity.

I’ve heard the horror stories. I’ve witnessed them in fact. I began coaching at an early age, helping run a local team at aged only 17. I stopped shortly before my 24th birthday to concentrate on the birth of my first son safe in the knowledge that my coaching days were over (little did I know that only six years later I would have a team of my own). Several years ago, whilst helping out with the aforementioned local team, I witnessed one woman actually slap the manager because her son had been named as a substitute. These are the kind of stories we hear about almost on a weekly basis.

But that is not my point.  My point goes back to the fact that we are not professionals. We have full-time jobs in which we fit the running of our team around our already hectic day-to-day schedules. Now I am the first to admit that when I was first ‘awarded’ the manager title I felt out of my depth. Granted, I had coached before but not six and seven-year-old children. I didn’t have a clue where to start. However, shortly after I struck gold.

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I am fortunate enough to be involved with a club that has many years experience when it comes to running a club at grassroots level. They had found a UEFA B licensed coach who was willing to help out and take a block of training sessions for whichever of our teams felt that they would benefit from some professional coaching. The fee was small, minimal when taking into account the small fee which we charge for training anyway, and all of my parents were willing to pay an additional £1 each to take up this opportunity.

I can’t stress enough how much this benefited everyone involved. The children learnt plenty and I picked up some invaluable tips that I feel have made me a better coach all-round. From how to treat the children in a manner that is fun but still gains respect, to drills and football related games which keep every child engaged at all times, hence stopping them from becoming bored.

I took this coach on for a four week block before our season began and it definitely helped my team prepare themselves from the massive step up involved from training to their first matches as grassroots players.

I can’t recommend this approach highly enough. The whole experience enabled the team to form a bond which perhaps I could not have achieved. I’m not a professional and neither, at least not yet, are any of the children. Getting help from one was a great experience and I would jump at the chance to do it again. It’s not a permanent thing, it’s almost a treat and the children loved every minute of it. Unfortunately for myself (not so much the man himself), the coach was snapped up by Manchester City shortly after to help run their new academy in China.

There’s no shame in asking for help. In fact, taking that jump does have major benefits for all involved.

Jamie Ward